• I love this! So much to dig around in! I am excited to spend more time on here:)

      A word for marriage and communication…

      Proverbs 12:18

      “The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

      I have said many harsh and controlling words based out of fear to my husband. I believe im starting to see that when my identity is partly wrapped up in my husband and who he is and what he does or says, I become worried and controlling instead of focusing my responsibility on controlling myself.

      This is an area I want to change in. I want to be a quieter more peaceful helper that is steady and sure in my own footing.. not trying to control or freak out about my partner.

      • Ben

        That’s good encouragement. I haven’t worked on this group in a while. Honestly, I’m kind of stalled. My circle of peers, there aren’t very many happily married people anymore. Lots of not-so-happy married people and plenty working on divorces or already there. Sobers you up.

        The other day I friend was like: “You’ve got to do this!” — meaning put together a retreat and some help for couples. Her reasoning is that there are so many powers and authorities coming against all forms of unity — and marriage is on the hit list.

        Praying for courage…

        • Im with you 100% Ben!

          People are scared and scarred. People have been shown bad examples. Couples have not had the resources to realize theyre not alone and these issues can be solved with beautiful victories awaiting them that make their marriage even sweeter and stronger.

          A chord of 3 strands is important to me as well. God and mission and purpose is alot of what has kept my hubby and I together. But not without the help of counsel and teaching and encouragement. I agree this is much needed.

          I am happily married even tho marriage is not about bringing us feelings of happiness. I praise and worship God for the gift and the challenge of marriage. We need each other. We arent right alone. We arent meant to be self focused. We need another person to merge with even if we have no community beyond that, that is precious. Marriage teaches u discipleship! Walking with another thru highs and lows. Sharing your life with another. I could go on… but marriage is so worth fighting for. I would defintely commit to helping you invest in this no matter where or what the cost. Thank you for your labor of love and for love.

          God be with us in this!